In "Everyday Use," what inference can you make about what the narrator wants from Dee?

One thing Mama wants from Dee is respect. In the beginning of the story, as Mama and Maggie await Dee's arrival, Mama shares her dream about meeting Dee on a famous television show. Dee will have "made it" or become successful in some way. And Dee will have an emotional reunion with Mama on a famous show in which Dee will thank Mama for raising her to be the success that she has become. 

In real life, Mama is large, accustomed to hard work, and hardly glamorous in the way Dee would probably wish her to be. In fact, Mama imagines that she is more glamorous in this television daydream. Mama re-imagines herself in this way because this is the stereotypical presentation of the successful child's proud mother. But she also imagines herself in this way because, in this scenario, Dee would respect her. 

Dee has always had her own style. That is, she has always been interested in what is in style. Now that African culture is fashionable in the social world Dee has experienced in college, she wants the quilts. Mama and Maggie know that the quilts have sentimental value because of how they were made, how they look, and because of how they were designed: to be used. Dee wants them for superficial reasons. It seems that Mama has always wanted Dee's approval, but in the end she will not agree to Dee's superficial request to take the quilts to simply hang them on the wall. This is significant because Mama says "No" to Dee. At this point, Mama changes. She is no longer interested in Dee's approval and/or respect. She would rather have Maggie's approval: 

I did something I never had done before: hugged Maggie to me, then dragged her on into the room, snatched the quilts out of Miss Wangero's hands, and dumped them into Maggie's lap.